I am so very thankful for every brave American Soldier who faithfully gave everything, some even their lives, in order to provide me with opportunity and freedom.
I am still a very proud contributor for over a year now to pets for vets, www.petsforvets.com. Check them out, they are an awesome organization. So as I said last year, spend less than what you would on a 6-pack of beer this Memorial day and help a vet get a fuzzy friend that will change their life.
It has been a little over a month since I last checked in with everyone. I finished all my renovations for now and gearing up for a busy summer ahead. I had a lot of fun shooting this month for my site and got back to my roots of doing more costume style shoots. After all these years I still enjoy getting ready and the excitement I feel knowing that I get to share my art, for lack of a better word, with the everyone. I decided to use my unfinished room as a set and borrow some guns of Ryan’s and do a little sniper inspired gun toting video/photo set. Don’t mistake my posing with guns as some sort of political statement. On the contrary, I quite fear guns and I am not a big fan of the NRA and I’m all about stricter gun laws. Holding the that big shotgun did make me feel like a badass, I will admit that!
After holding a big gun and pleasuring myself what was next? A nice long sensual massage. Oh yeah and let me tell you, it felt real goooood. I got pampered in every sense of the word. It was delicious!
Next it was time to head out and attend Coachella, or my version of it entitled “Cuntchella” ha ha.
And the following week it was all about taking me out to the ball game and then seducing one of the players on the team. Batter up Boys!
And saving the best for last, I got to school you as only Ms. Madison can on the details of Sexual Intercourse as taught in my School of Porn. Check out my youtube video taken from the intro of the video from my site.
In closing, for those that are enjoying a day off or for those working tirelessly like my husband is today at the office, take a moment to say “thanks” to our vets. At 3:00 today take a moment of silence in remembrance of our vets and pray that the horrors of violence and war is soon to be a thing of our past and not something humanity has to bear with until the end of time.
Happy April Everyone. This month has been full of new things, new beings, and a new perspective on what it takes to get shit done around the house. On the 13th it was mine and Ryan’s wedding anniversary. We have been together for almost 17 years, and most of that time married and working together. I am starting to take this hard working man for granted and most recently realized my whole universe would not have been the same had he not been with me, holding my hand and going on this journey together. Awwww, yes, I am still in love with him even though he does tend to drive me crazy!
The day after our anniversary my new nephew was born, his name is Zen and he was delivered Cesarean which caused a few respiratory problems for him but I can happily announce today, 11 days later, he is coming home from the hospital as healthy as can be! Yay!
I spent last weekend babysitting my niece’s other son and her husband’s two children. I took them to go see Jungle Book, OMG, that is my favorite movie now. I love being an Aunt and spoiling them and buying them frozen yogurt and toys and going to the park and then packing up my car and going home. Dogs are way easier – ha ha. No really, they are precious and if I could spend time with them every weekend I would : )
I love doing content for my site and so I have been busy this month doing that as you can see, I can’t fake the funk.
I have also taken on the chore of remodeling the master bedroom at the work house. I wanted to do a reclaimed brick wall look with old brick, who knew it took so much work to make something look old and torn up a bit. Geez. It is done now and it looks great, just what I wanted. I re-did the ceiling, lighting, flooring, paint, floor boards, you name it. I also upgraded the master bath and the walk in closet. I also like how one starts off with a budget in mind and somehow along the way it quadruples? How does that happen?
I am on my way over to see Ryan with the doggies in about an hour. I have to do my makeup and then head over to the work house with about 20 sets of bras and panties to model for Polaroids that I sell on my site along with my outfit I’m wearing today for the shoot (I know it is Sunday but what can I say, working is fun for me!), dog food and walking apparatus for them, chicken and veggies to barbecue and some adult beverages, bathing suits to go into the pool and spa afterwards and most importantly, I take with me a great sense of happiness knowing that I get to enjoy this beautiful day.
Welcome beautiful springtime! I just walked outside and everything is so green and luscious. The hills behind my home look like Maui. I love this time of year and we have been spring cleaning away. We had some plumbing troubles and now we are fixing everything and painting the walls. Everything is beginning to feel fresh and new which only inspires me to do work more. I love when all is in order. The only down part to this month so far is the anniversary of my sister’s passing. I can’t believe a year has swept by so quickly. I was pretty depressed last week but decided to turn the day of her passing into a celebration of sorts and we had a big pizza party at the office. I also went down this past weekend and visited my niece who is expecting her 2nd child in April. We sorted through all the baby stuff and did some shopping to get her ready to bring home the little guy. I have to admit I am a bit sore from playing with her son and her husband’s two kids. I thought I was in shape but playing with them for 2 days straight really shows me my age – yikes!
I have a new DVD that was released this month and It is the 2nd of a new line I am calling Ms. Madison.
I also wanted to share some photos of my new updates on my site. I like the nerdy lab professor the best : )
I updated one of my favorite scenes that I did with Sophie Dee in our bikinis. Now there’s a whole lotta titty for ya!
I also worked with Bree Olson a while ago, before all the Charlie Sheen drama. I don’t think she is in the business any longer but she sure made an impression on me when I worked with her, so damn cute.
So March and the beginning of Spring are just zinging along and so am I. I’ll be checking in after Easter and letting you know what surprises I get from the Easter Bunny. Oh I do hope it is a new Tesla but I’ll settle for some See’s candy.
February flew by so fast that I am just now writing about it during the first week of March! Yikes. Well here in California it was to be the wettest month in the wettest year but alas, thanks to global warming we experienced hot summer days while the East Coast was getting pounded by snow storms. Every Valentine’s Day Ryan and I take the doggies up to our local mountains. Each year I am so excited to play in the snow and I get all my gear ready only find out there is no snow yet again and I have to pack sandals instead of snow boots. Regardless of the lack of snow, we still have a great time and this year was no different.
Super Bowl was sort of uneventful this year. I think I just like the idea of having a party and getting everyone together and doing everything but watch the game. So for me the party was awesome, can’t say much for the game.
We got an extra day this month and I tried to celebrate my leap day by appreciating what I have. I took the extra day to think “I get to” instead of “I have to”. Puts a whole new perspective on chores.
Now getting back to Valentine’s Day and love, or even better, sex. As I mentioned before, I wrote a few article’s for my friend’s magazine. I was asked what my advice was on pleasing a woman. I can only speak for myself but this is what I shared:
Without sounding cliché or regurgitating the typical advice about “How to please a woman in bed” that is in every gosh darn magazine out there, I would like to approach that topic at a slightly different angle of “How to please your Woman”. Instead of listing off all the common sense stuff that everyone is aware of I am more interested in answering in detail (the best I can) one of our subscriber’s questions which was “How to reignite my sex life with my wife who I have been married to for a while and our sex life has become non-existent?”
This is a much harder issue to tackle because not only is she, or him, or whomever your partner is, most definitely too familiar and possibly bored with you and that you also take your partner for granted. You may now find yourself at a loss of how to get things going in bed again and have forgotten all those special things you did years ago that worked but now has gotten lost in the sauce somewhere between kids, money problems, health issues and everything else that divides us; sneaking up on us gradually and snatching away all of our young, exuberant horny selves.
I myself after 8 years of marriage, 16 years in the same relationship and working together for all that time have found even my sex life rather boring. Yes, doing porn for a living doesn’t mean I don’t experience what every other married couple goes through. So now that you know I also feel that same pain of longing for a sex life I used to enjoy when the relationship was fresh and new maybe you can appreciate some of my advice that I too have had to heed.
1. Speak your partner’s language.
Sounds weird but so true. Listen to what interests them and show them that you are listening by responding accordingly, not just let it go in one ear and out the other. Remember when you were dating, everything they said seemed so cool and interesting. Try it, really get outside yourself and listen to them. I for one am not a visual person, I am an auditory person. So tell me how much you love talking with me, tell me how funny I am, just speak to me and give me compliments and that is half the battle of turning me on. As I have learned from the “5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, that doesn’t always work with every person but you can be safe assured that compliments and listening will at the very least get you to first base. If you have gotten in a bad habit of only telling them the negative and what you don’t like about them you lose the chance of having true intimacy that can only be achieved when you build someone up, not tear them down.
2.Look the part.
For the people who are visual, seeing their partner dressed nicely and hair done and smelling good is a bonus. For those that haven’t been married for over 7 years this sounds ridiculous to you as if that is even an issue. But sad to say some where around the 7th year we tend to get a bit lazy, myself included. Many nights I greet my husband after work with nasty sweats on, a torn t-shirt, a saggy bra and zit cream on my face. And I wonder why he isn’t jumping my bones? It doesn’t have to be a holiday to shave your legs ladies. And guys, really manscaping IS a must. Trim it, shave it, just make sure it looks approachable. And most important, making yourself presentable doesn’t only affect the other person, it gives you the confidence to take control of the situation and help to seduce your partner. And nothing is sexier than a man or woman with nice feet. Go get a pedicure you cheap ass!
3. Create the Space.
This can be taken literally or theoretically. If you have children, make it a date night so no one is home or get a hotel room, getting away can do wonders for a relationship. If that isn’t plausible just make your own bedroom a romantic hideaway. Clean up the dirty laundry, put all the crap away and light some candles. Make it sexy and inviting. Women dig on candles, it’s primordial or something, instantly makes us want to have sex. However you see fit, just make a space for sex. It doesn’t have to cost a lot or take hours to do, make a bubble bath, put some flowers in a vase, just create the kind of space you know your partner would feel good in.
4. Give Baby, Give!
I’ll get to the sex part but try giving in other areas that
you know your partner will appreciate. You know that “honey do list”? Well, do something without being asked. That is actually a huge romantic gesture. Making the other person feel respected and cared for has a trickle down effect on their sexual organs. So once a few chores are done, the bedroom looks cozy and romantic, you took a bath and groomed up nicely, now it is time to put 100% focus on to them. Completely let go of your own selfish needs and really be there for the other person. Start off with a conversation they want to have and then get ready to seduce and conquer.
Your mindset has to be initiating sex without the end goal to be your own orgasm. Kiss your partner, massage them, touch them the way you know they like to be touched, and refuse them when they go to return the favor. Tell them tonight it is all about them. You don’t have to go into some tantric sex act for hours on end, just do what it takes to get them off or at the very least until you make that special connection, that deep intimate “I love you and want you to feel good” connection.
That is the most important, give without any desire for return, blue balls it if you have to boys and for you girls, you’ll have to get yourself off later with a toy or something. It will be easy to orgasm with the realization of how well you fu@#ed your partner.
So for those trying to re-kindle a long gone flame you once shared, like the woman who used to give you a blow job as you drove home from dinner and now just bitches at you for the way you are driving, or the guy who couldn’t keep his hands off you the minute no one was around and now would rather spend time in the garage alone, this is for you….
This new year is very special for me. I see it as a new beginning to start something fresh and magical. Last year was full of pain and despair, loss and difficulties, challenges and most of all, great change. I feel it was my year of real growth so for that I will be forever grateful but now I would like to take my new awareness and really do something important. So I wish for all of you to meet this new year with enthusiasm and most of all, belief in yourself. There is no better time than now to diminish the power of unconscious beliefs that are not working for you and embrace new possibilities with a new awareness level. I’ve learned through some very difficult lessons that what I identify with, I become. I’m ready to be the best me I can be in 2016!
So here is what has been happening in my little world since Jan. 1st.
I celebrated 2016 with a video from pornfidelity.com that we shot a few years ago with the gorgeous Ana Foxxx and the vivacious Nyomi Banxxx. It was such a fun shoot that I wanted to share it with my members.
I worked on Jan. 1st and did a photo/video shoot. With the chaos of the holidays and birthdays in December I really had no other time to work so a few of us had to work on New Year’s day. It was fun and I love what I do so I truly can’t complain that is was “work” if you know what I mean. Making love to my husband on or off camera is always a good way to start the New Year.
I was also able to visit Carlsbad and see my niece and her new husband and all their kids. It was so nice down by the ocean that Ryan and I decided to stay an extra day. We had a nice room with a kitchen with the ocean only steps away so why not stay and enjoy a day together? We enjoyed it the best way we know how, we shot a video in the morning after walking the dogs on the beach : )
I then celebrated this month with my favorite person EVER to work with, Brandi Love. We had so much fun making this video a few years ago, that again, I had to steal it from pornfidelity.com and share it with MY members. This one is called “Cumsicle”, yes, use your imagination on that one!
The second week of January we left for a work/vaca trip to Cabo. I had a quick business trip to Vegas and then I was off to Mexico. It was so cold when we boarded the plane and we landed only 2 hours later in 80 degree heaven. I usually love the cold but it was a nice warm welcome that I really appreciated. I have 4 videos to share on my website that I did while down there. This amateur sort of out of focus photos is from the first video we did, we went out enjoying the town and I was so tired I fell asleep in my dress lying on the bed. Ryan woke me up to have sex and so we turned on our little camera and captured the “real thing”. No lights, no big cameras, just us in the middle of the night in Mexico as raw as can be.
To end our trip to Cabo in grand style Ryan and I drove to Flora Farms in San Jose. It was spectacular! We took a tour of the farm and had a lovely dinner. The farm and all the produce, the beautiful grounds, the elegant dining experience all far exceeded our expectations. It made us want to go home and be farmers.
Well, we’ve been home for almost a week, I haven’t starting planting my newly inspired garden as of yet but I have been planting seeds on what I want to create this year.
Joy to the World, I’m finally writing in my blog, let everyone be shocked. Sorry for the non entry lately. This holiday season sort of kicked my butt. With Ryan’s birthday on the 16th, our company party on the 19th which I planned and executed all on my own, and 4 different family holiday celebrations I’m ready to turn in my santa hat for the year!
This year has come with so many blessings that I can’t complain. We received 15 nominations for AVN awards and 9 from XBiz. We’re extremely thankful to AVN and to XBiz for these amazing nominations! With such a crowded market place and so much incredible content out there, we’re grateful to the fans and critics for taking notice of our movies and supporting our studio.
This year was very difficult as well with losing my sister early on and then a cousin with a tragic and unexpected death and the passing of a dear family friend. It made Christmas a bit melancholy but also reminded me to be grateful for those I do have in my life and for my incredible health.
Our holiday company party was extremely fun and I think everyone enjoyed all the surprises and gifts and bonuses. I want them to feel appreciated because we wouldn’t have the company we have without them.
Seeing all the family we do have filled my heart with love and joy and the kids are all growing up so fast. This coming month my little Kaylee dog will be 8 years old.
We are fast approaching our senior years together. The new year is only days away and I still can’t believe it will be 2016. Time is flying by and I want to make sure that everyone from my fans, to my friends and my family know how much I care for them.
In fact, a blowjob can have an affect on the whole universe!
Sounds preposterous? Giving gratitude can go a long way and no good deed goes unnoticed. This article is for people that have been in a committed relationship for a fair amount of time. For those in a new romance, and I mean less than 3 years or so, this may not even apply to you and if what I speak of rings true to you then you had better take notes.
Everyone out there knows you take the ones you love for granted. Blah blah blah. Everyday niceties like “thank you” and “oh honey, that was so kind of you” somehow get lost in translation during your journey through life together. You start to expect it when they do things for you since inside what you are really thinking to yourself is “oh I do WAY more for them than they ever do for me”. Sound familiar? That is the killer right there because that way of perceiving your relationship is not only dangerous, it is wholly destructive.
So let’s begin our lesson with gratitude. And what is so fabulous about gratitude is that you actually get more from expressing gratitude then those who are on the receiving end. There in lies the magic, that wonderful enlightened magic where the better person you are to your spouse the better person you become which leads to you falling more in love with yourself which is the key to a successful relationship with your spouse.
So set aside those old tired feelings of being unappreciative and bitter and look at your spouse with new eyes. Try to see them how their co-workers or friends may. Focus on what your partner does well and think of all the kind things they do for you on a daily basis. Hell, I have a few friends that would be thankful if their spouse just had a job, let alone you sitting there taking them for granted when they put in a 60+ hour work week. Believe me I am writing this for myself as much as I am for you. I have become a bitter and unhappy woman to come home to at times and this did not affect my husband as much as it did me. I started to see myself as unhappy and so unhappy things began to occur. Once I began to shift my perspective to being happy and finding the joy and gratitude in just the littlest things, I didn’t lose myself or my standards even though my ugly ego was telling me that, but I actually found my true self.
Now let’s go one step further. When was the last time you showed your partner gratitude with sex? While researching my article I found all these ways to show gratitude to your partner by saying thank you and giving them back scratches and leaving them little notes -FUCK THAT! My husband would feel so much more appreciated with a blow job then a note on his computer, even better, putting a note on his computer to come back to bed and I’ll give him a quick blow job before going to work would be the perfect way to show him gratitude.
There are even studies that prove that showing gratitude makes you sexier. And I so believe it. When I feel grateful and express it to my partner I get all warm and fuzzy inside. I almost start to glow. I feel lighter and brighter. I’m sure this translates as being more attractive and more approachable. So showing your gratitude with sex is just one step above, giving your partner the best sex is going to enhance your mind, body and soul. Being grateful and giving it to them just the way they like it will most definitely give you the orgasm of your dreams as well.
So show a little love, or better yet, a lotta love and really give it to your mate. Don’t do some boring sensual and tender love making nonsense, really fuck them good. Let them know that they are THE most important person in your life and that their happiness is your happiness and lucky for you, that is indeed the case. Gratitude is viral. Once you start showing it and feeling it the ones you love tend to catch the condition too. Think of this as a holistic approach to your love life, you give your partner great sex to show them your gratitude, you feel happy, they feel loved, they in turn are kind to the other people in their life, and from there the energy flows like a wave. Your blow job can inexplicitly make somebody else’s day that you don’t even know, powerful stuff so don’t hesitate to make the world a better place even if you have to give some oral in order to get it done.
I like this new Walmart campaign to “green light” our vets. I found out it isn’t just about a green light to show your respect for our veterans but to bring awareness to the struggles they face once coming home. So I did some research and found this: “A veteran can sit for an average of twenty-two weeks in unemployment between their last military paycheck and a new job”. It seems a shame to have these talented and trained individuals unemployed for any length of time. Plus, as we all know, there are so many that come home with PTSD. I am still a monthly contributor to Pets for Vets www.petsforvets.com which enables those individuals finding it difficult to “fit” back into society a gentle and loving way to cope and enable them to have a new career. So love all around for our Vets!
I really can get behind this campaign and I myself would love to hire a vet.
Oh, I am in love. No, not with a new man but I fell in love with a city while traveling with my man. We went to New Orleans for Halloween and to attend the Saint’s game. I have never been to New Orleans so I was so excited to go. I even packed my bags several days before our departure which is very much unlike me, I was ready to go. Knowing that we would be there for Halloween I packed Ryan and myself costumes to wear and traveling with big hats with feathers on them was no easy task. We got into New Orleans around 7PM on Friday the 30th and just driving to our hotel we saw hundreds of people dressed up for Halloween walking the streets with adult beverages in hand. My kind of town. So we hurried up and checked in to our beautiful antique filled hotel room and jetted out onto the streets with the other crazies.
Of course we hit Bourbon street first where I was promptly greeted by fan that yelled out “Hey Kelly Madison”. As I said this was my kind of town filled with my kind of people. We had a few drinks and strolled in and out of the bars. I quickly found out this was a walking town and I had on the wrong shoes. But I also discovered the more you drink the less your feet hurt. I also discovered Madison Street.
The next day we went on a 3 hour museum hosted walking tour of the city. Yes, I bought some proper shoes for the event, Aerosoles to be exact, and we explored the town from end to end. We got some crab cakes and then headed back to our hotel.
I started to get ready for our night out and decided to turn it into a photo/video update for kellymadison.com. So after a bit of work I put on my dress and cape and Ryan adorned a steampunk/voodoo daddy getup and off we went to Frenchman Street.
Everyone was dressed up and hanging out on the street despite the downpour of rain. I loved that even though everyone was quite hammered there was no violence or “episodes” of raging testosterone. Everyone got along, everyone was kind to the homeless people, there was respect all around which made for a crazy fun night. The best costume I saw that night was the Publisher’s Clearing House Gang. So original and awesome to see them walking down the street, I just had to take a pic with them!
We didn’t stay out too late, just long enough to eat a midnight hot dog at Dat Dog which is super delicious, and to see a live brass band on the street that was harmonizing with a big trash truck driving past. We walked back soaking wet and went to bed in order to be fresh and ready for the Saints vs the Giants game on Sunday. And can I say, what a game it was! It was pouring rain so the tailgating wasn’t much but we did find a great restaurant and met some friendly Saints fans to sit with. The place was super crowded so I talked to a few people in line and we agreed to all sit together as a party of 8 rather than wait an hour for separate tables. Definitely a good idea because I loved hanging out with them. I really loved everyone in New Orleans. I could live there. The game was epic, the food was delicious, and having a few double Maker’s Marks was the cherry on top.
After recovering from the game, we decided to head out to get a bite to eat. We ended up in a nice place that served a full menu at the bar and I got to have my first Sazerac. Our bartender was informative, talkative, and cool as shit, just how I like my bartenders.
We tried to get into the museum on Monday but alas, it was closed. We still got to see some more sights and check out the art galleries and again, more people watching. Best people watching town ever! We hit a voodoo store where we ran into another fan and took a pic with him. Ryan also bought an African mask from the voodoo store, still wondering if that was a wise decision. We eventually sauntered back to our hotel and had fabulous sex. Don’t worry, I got it all on film and both New Orleans scenes I shot will be on my site this week and next. We finished the night off with an elegant dinner at Muriel’s and a midnight stroll. We even stopped and had our palms read. Seems Ryan is going to live into his 90’s. I guess all that sex is going to keep him alive for a very long time.
Tuesday we said goodbye to our beloved city. We will be back. There was still so much to do. It breaks my heart thinking of all that happened in the aftermath of Katrina. I said a little prayer when I first saw the Superdome. I’m glad that the city has recovered as much as it has and even though there are still people that never got back what they lost, New Orleans never lost its magic.
I chose this title because looking back at the last month or so a lot of problems I imagined as difficult mountains really have turned out to be nothing at all and all the daunting tasks became fun challenges that I actually enjoyed doing.
So with that said let me catch you up on things. Last I wrote I had just gotten back from my birthday trip to Rancho Santa Fe. Soon after we got home we had a major leak from the 2nd floor down to the basement. This is the 2nd time this has happened and we thought it was fixed. I called out the plumber and after putting two holes right where I just repaired it from last time, alas they found no leak. Come to find out, the last model that we shot somehow left the shower door open and had the shower head pointed outside the shower and got the floor all wet enough to soak down 2 floors! Again, thought it was a huge mountain, nah just a mole hill that cost me $500 to repair.
Ryan and I had our annual trip planned to June Lake to shoot some content for my site and get out into the great outdoors. Right before going I decided to re-do my wood deck by the pool. Well there ended up being a few hick-ups in the process and it cost more than originally planned and took much longer to do and then all of a sudden our pool began to lose inches of water a day. We ended up having a major leak in one of the pipes under the newly done deck but it wasn’t construction related, just random. Everything got fixed and the mountain-like problem ended up being nothing but a busted pipe that luckily we could get to without destroying all the work done.
I have avoided a few other tragedies as well this past month. I also learned a good lesson from them all: Not all things are as they appear and if you keep level headed and positive the solutions come to you with ease.
So now I am taking on a badly needed roof repair, new windows in the master bedroom, and some long overdue landscaping. I just signed a contract for new Internet which is no easy task when your house has absolutely no cable or fiber going to it. All of it has to be brought in by telephone pole. But after long negotiations with the City and with Time Warner I refuse to pay $96,000 for coax cable to be put in the road and instead worked out a deal with AT&T for 5 times the bandwidth I was getting before for less than what I was paying and I’ll have no construction costs or headaches. Wheh!
So enough with my boring life. Let’s get back to what I enjoy doing most which is entertaining my fans. I did shoot a few scenes up in the mountains as well as some photo/video shoots when I was in Rancho. I also updated a shoot I did with Julia Ann that I wanted to share with the members of kellymadison.com, she was my first porn girl crush. I really love her. She is a good person inside and beautiful in every way.
Here a few photos from it all:
I have also written a few more articles for Level Magazine that I wish to share with you. I’ll post them in the coming days. Take care and remember, what you focus on, you create. Focus on the problems and not the solutions and the problems just gets worse.